Something that we all want to and experience is that unconditional, true, once in a lifetime, deep kind of love. Something we read in fairytales; the undying, selfless love that poets write about. All of us long to find our soul-mate who will wholeheartedly, deeply, selflessly and genuinely love us and will accept and cherish us for just being who we are. It’s okay to feel like that.
Our topmost and number one priority should be being genuinely happy, no matter what your relationship status is. If you’re in a relationship with someone who is genuinely in love with you, for the real you, and you are happy, then you are very lucky, as being in a relationship for the sake of it will never make you happy, and will not contribute to making your life meaningful and fulfilling.
Well, it’s true that it’s not fun going solo and feeling lonely, however, if you settle for that wrong someone who you thought was your soul-mate, sooner or later, you’ll feel lonelier and maybe even more depressed than when you were before, and you’ll also feel like you haven’t been true to yourself and betrayed your heart. So always remember that you being alone is always better than settling for and with the wrong person.
Here’s why being alone is much better than settling for the wrong person:
It’s better than settling for someone who doesn’t deserve you and your love
It hurts to be with someone who doesn’t feel about you, the way you feel about them and doesn’t see you the way you see them. It also hurts to be with someone who couldn’t care less if you left them.
It’s better than settling for someone who doesn’t make you happy
There is no point in being with someone who doesn’t understand how you feel, your needs and your desires. Being with someone who’s never there when you need them the most, and to tell you that everything will be okay when you’re having a hard time, can drain your energy.
It’s better than settling for someone who can’t see your worth
You should never be with someone who can immediately see and judge you for your annoying habits, fears, and insecurities, but never see or don’t want to see your best qualities. One should also never be with someone who criticizes you for your imperfections and weaknesses when you are down, but be with someone who will remind you of your worth and your strength when you feel unimportant or weak.
It’s better than settling for someone who doesn’t deserve your attention
You shouldn’t be with someone who does not deserve your time, energy, kindness, compassion, generosity, love, self-sacrifice and patience.
It’s better than settling for someone who is not what your heart desires
It’s always better being alone than being with someone who is not what you need to feel fulfilled and truly happy.
It’s better than settling for someone who is only interested in taking advantage of you
You shouldn’t be with someone who will treat you well only when they want something from you. You should be with someone who will compliment you on your good days and bad days, not when they want some little favor from you. It’s much better being alone than being with someone who is never there when you need their help, attention or affection.
It is definitely better being on your own than settling with someone to whom you are only some temporary fling, or a second option, and it is much better than being with someone who doesn’t counter your love. You have to be with someone who will love you and fight for you with every fiber of who they are. Never be with someone whose soul doesn’t match and reflect yours, and someone who isn’t ever afraid of losing you.