The husband, Paul Scharoun-DeForge of the longest Down disorder marriage to date has passed away at the age of 56 after suffering from Alzheimer’s disease. His 59-year-old wife is now a widow after 25 years of the marriage.
Paul and Kris were from Liverpool, New York and met in a dance ball for disabled individuals during 80s. Once Kris said, “I looked into Paul’s eyes and saw my future”.
She cracked the question in 1988. Kris said: “He made me laugh. I looked into his eyes and saw my future, and that’s when I proposed to him… He said yes.” Finally married in 1993 after 5 years of engagement. Even her sister, Susan Scharoun agreed that they have the right to choose the partner for their life.
Three decades ago, Kris Scharoun-DeForge went to a dance, spotted Paul DeForge and immediately fell in love. Reflecting on that day, she often says, “I looked into Paul’s eyes and saw my future.” https://t.co/3sFUaDFTa9 pic.twitter.com/1kehavvPHp
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“They have unconditional love. They totally complement each other,” Scharoun said, moreover, although they had their differences, they gave full support for each other.
“She is more emotionally vulnerable, and he has always been her rock,” she said. “She would plan what they would do and really be responsible for the social events. They had a lot of struggles. I saw them as individuals who should have a right to make that decision.”
Erin Sobkowski once said that marriage is a general part of human life and that all people have a wish to fill life with someone they love. She has thoroughly studied and educate others about Down syndrome in a community group and work as a lawyer too.
Kris had a hard time dealing out the fact that her husband had passed away.
“We had to tell her he wasn’t going to come back, and it became really difficult for her,” Scharoun said, and Paul began not to identify people when his Alzheimer’s began to get worse.
Paul was in thorough care to deal with his ongoing health condition, but he returned to inpatient care with pneumonia in March. Kris was always there in his company. He later kept his head on his brother’s shoulder and passed away peacefully.
“I was very, very upset,” Kris said of her husband’s death and had given him a picture of a butterfly that was hung beside his bed. “I gave it to my sweetheart, and he loved it. I think of Paul flying up in the air … and being free.”
Kris plans on traveling to an unusual place to throw his ashes on their anniversary wedding date, August 13.